Moonlight Dragonfly

Moonlight Dragonfly

Clearing Mary’s estate was a massive undertaking. It made climbing Mt. Everest seem like a cakewalk. Not that I ever climbed Mt. Everest, but imagining the trek could not be nearly as difficult as selling, sorting, and designating every single item from every single space, upstairs, downstairs, outside and inside, overhead and underneath, from Mary’s house. I wouldn’t call Mary a hoarder, but beyond the average collector, she didn’t leave any surface empty. Plus she had lived there over fifty years and one does amass an enormous amount of stuff if one stays put and never parts with anything, yet continues to collect.

She left everything to her grandchildren and I remember when the grandson contacted me about the possibility of helping them, that his wife wept openly about how hard going through everything had been and they could not begin to know how to go about liquidating a lifetime’s worth of goods, both valuable and worthless at the same time.

As an estate sale specialist, I had come highly recommended and it meant more to them that I had known Mary as my neighbor and would undoubtedly serve their needs with special care and consideration.

In fact Mary was a favorite neighbor. She was a wise woman and the first one to introduce herself to me when I moved in many years before. We became close and she stood as my advocate through many battles with an atrocious association that represented the worst of condominium living – the kind you hear horrible tales about.

We both liked art and antiques and I enjoyed hearing Mary’s stories of childhood growing up in the South, her many adventures as a bailiff in the county court, and learned a lot from her about her personal research into the mystical, astrology, and all things woo-woo. 

Her beliefs were odd yet interesting. She could read a person very quickly and by their mannerisms or expressions tell their sign, or birth order, or any number of not important, yet quite revealing details that stripped that individual of any cloudy intentions. Her bookcases brimmed over with books about every kind of occult, magical, science, psychology, astronomy, afterlife and other publications pertaining to exploration of people and possibilities, both future and past. It wasn’t at all unusual for her to ask someone soon after meeting them, “What sign are you?” or to identify their secrets to them without even needing to ask that oft avoided inquiry.

So it was with great care that I took on the monumental task of clearing her house and touching every single thing that she had owned and deciding how to dispose of it properly. Unlike other estate sales I had organized, this time was personal. I cared more. Things mattered more. I loved Mary and if everything she believed in meant she was indeed watching over me and this process, then I meant to do the very best in her honor and memory.

The stars aligned (or Mary interceded and aligned them for me) and all the right people happened out of nowhere to buy her belongings. There was an inordinate amount of art that I knew very little about. An art dealer showed up. There was tons of silver as Mary treated herself royally and ate with real sterling utensils and kept fine silver place settings and matching pieces. I found a trusted silver dealer who paid fair for it all. There were too many books to count, and a book dealer did all the heavy lifting and carted them away for decent dollars. And so on….

A charity needed the washer and dryer. A neighbor bought a table. The rugs sold at an antique show. The little stuff went to a little stuff dealer. Little by little the mountain that had been Mary dwindled to a manageable amount of items left. Soon it was over. Much sooner than I had anticipated and we made much more money than I could have imagined also. The clients were ecstatic with the results and my satisfaction in pleasing them, and hopefully Mary, soared to meet the fulfilled expectations.

Finally her house was empty. Really empty. Spacious in view of all that had left the premises.

I walked over one winter night and went inside one last time to make sure everything was gone and the house had been cleaned for the new owners. I rang her bell one last time (she had an antique turnstile bell that was always a joy to ring) as a fond memory of all our visits and used my loaned key to go inside. The electricity had been shut off and it smelled fresh. Though it was somewhat dark, I wandered from room to room double-checking from floor to ceiling and simply remembering Mary.

The last room was her upstairs bedroom. I looked up to see a dusty ceiling fan, but otherwise there was nothing left and I stopped for a moment to think of her deeply and wonder where she was at that moment and if she could see me … I know Mary believed in that sort of stuff and what if it were possible? How would I know? I wouldn’t until I made it to the other side and Mary was already there so if there was any chance of communication, now was the time to wonder about it and stop to feel….

I silently said a prayer for her and stopped to ask into thin air if she was satisfied with what I had done for her heirs? I spoke aloud then, since no one was around anyway, and wondered if she could really hear me? I asked her, “Mary, if you’re really still here and if you really can hear me, show me a sign, some sign, anything, maybe something left behind, something I forgot, or let me hear you in some way….” It felt foolish and spiritual and necessary – for us both – at least in that moment. I knew Mary believed in this stuff and she had encouraged me to believe too. Even though I had been through the place a dozen times and I knew nothing had been left or forgotten, I still asked for her blessing.

I didn’t hear anything. The house grew quieter. And darker.

I turned to leave and noticed the moonlight shining brightly through the window from the bedroom across the hall. I smiled. It was a pretty night and the moon glowed in gladness. That was enough, I thought.

Then I saw something sparkle from the carpet in that room. A glittery twinkle on the floor near the baseboard in an otherwise empty room. There could be nothing there I reasoned; probably the moon’s light flickering against the recently revealed wall where Mary’s books had stacked for years.

I walked inside and there! It was large for an ornament. A bronze dragonfly with a very old piece of twine had caught the light of the moon and morphed out of nowhere to rest lightly on the carpet. As big as a hand, how could we possibly have missed this piece? I picked it up and smiled up at the moon from the window. The dragonfly was beautiful and I knew we didn’t miss it at all.

It was Mary’s message to me.

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The Restraining Order

The Restraining Order

The judge bellowed from the bench set high above the courtroom so as to separate his meanness from the rest of us and so that if you looked up at him too long your neck crooked in such a way that his bark became bite.

The poor petitioners' that dared misuse pronouns or lacked proper proof of their claims were summarily dismissed in rapid succession and left the court with their heads bowed low, and some whimpered wantonly.

Everyone came to court this day seeking a restraining order. A protective order to protect them from some fear or stalking or other offense requiring legal restraint, but this judge brutalized most plaintiffs worse than the defendants they were there to get away from.

What the hell am I doing here? I asked myself from the front row where I purposely picked a seat close up so I could hear everything that happened and hope to learn a thing or two. What I learned early on in the day was that I would be lucky to get out of there with my ego intact, let alone a judgment in my favor. There were 31 cases on this judge's calendar. I was number 29.

No one was winning. Every case presented had a particular flaw or the judge was just having a horrendous day reflected in his horrible mood. I couldn't tell which from witch. And the cases were horrific – mostly family court kind of drama; baby mamas and reality television sort of craziness. This one beat this one up, and that one broke visitation rules, and another one calls and calls, and so on.... The judge, unmoved, moved to dismiss one after the other, but not before scolding them into oblivion for their own misfortunes and misrepresentations.

Way down the line, someone won! Wow – a ray of dismal hope. Still, one out of 17 cases is not a score to count on for success.

So why was I there?

Because I had had enough. Unfamiliar with stalking or harassment or laws about similar crimes, I had put up with an unwanted individual for nearly a decade. Annoyances, “things” left at my house, comments (shouts, really, but I'm being nice), a whole host of unwanted and unwarranted overtures from a person I wanted to only leave me alone. Cameras had been put up at my home per police suggestion, and I ignored this person despite the botheration because I felt certain that if I ignored long enough it would stop.

It did not.

Ultimately, a violation of vandalism provoked me to this court. The last straw in a long sequence of last straws.

This person had bothered me into this courtroom where a blustery judge was beating up those that had already been beaten down.

~

It made me think of Him.

The person I thought of as a dear friend that had become alienated and distant and I didn't know why.

Nowadays there's a term for it, I learned recently. It's called “ghosting.”

When someone you love or someone you thought you knew well, or had a relationship with, or a friendship, suddenly ignores you. Doesn't return calls, letters, emails, any messages at all. Simply disappears off your radar and out of your reality. It's painful at best and viciously vacuous of the other person who doesn't have the courage to communicate in some way (in any way!), what for or why they have decided to delete you from their life.

Recently, someone I've been great friends with for 30 years (30 dang years!) did this ghosting thing to me and it stings and it makes no sense whatsoever. So much for great friends who turn out to be not so great.

But, back to Him....

I didn't do anything wrong that I was aware of, but I sure missed my friend and had made several attempts to contact him by email or phone, but when he didn't return my reaching out, I stopped. What choice did I have?

All I could do was wonder what I did to deserve denial. I had no answers. Life is like that sometimes.

On his birthday, just to honor him, I dropped off some special soup he liked at his office, but he wasn't there and I was glad about that, actually. I never heard anything from him afterward.

The coworker I left the soup with was a friend to me and she called to tell me not nice things about the way He accepted or rather accentuated his distress about the benign Birthday blessing: He Raged.

“Really?” I asked.

Yes. Really.

She tattled that He scolded her for accepting anything from me, said that I was “stalking” him; that he had a “restraining order” on me already … he fumed furiously at her for – well, for what? For me bringing him a bowl of soup when he wasn't even there?

Apparently. Yes.

From the way this coworker claimed He carried on, you would think I had sent him a tantric sex tutorial or something --- rather than some soup!

I was devastated.

Furthermore, I had no idea what the truth was. Either she misunderstood Him, or exaggerated, or flat-out lied, or He really said that, or something like that, in which case HE flat-out lied … since obviously I would know if someone had a restraining order against me.


(And if He truly did have the nerve to tell her that terrible lie, then I would like him to know that it's not so easy to get a restraining order....)

One of them lied. And I will never know which one.

~

So here we are back in the battleground of this jurisprudence jungle when Judge Jerk jerks me from my daydreaming of this person's disrespectful disavowing by bellowing my case number and name for the second time into the now near empty courtroom.

I gathered my documents and the last of my wits about me and approached the bench.

Fortunately for me, I had a police detective as a witness and supporter – in case I felt the need to commit my own crime against humanity and attack this offensive magistrate who might mangle his obligation to do justice and grant me my order.

Only one other case had won. (In case you're keeping score, that makes two).

No, it wasn't easy. He scolded me too. Just like all the others. Cut me off, sliced me up, and severed my common sense from the rest of any sense, while he ceremoniously circumvented my well-documented years of struggles with the offending defendant, but … and this is BIG … mostly the judge scolded me for putting up with it for so long! He asked my police detective pointed questions (with respect, of course, for the law abiding uniformed officer) and then rightfully signed off on a restraining order.

Petition Granted. I Won!

That makes three.

Only 3 out of 31 won their case that day.

I didn't care that the judge decimated my verve, only that I would avoid more otherwise unavoidable encounters with the offender.

I left the court with my head held high. I survived a hanging judge! Victory tastes delicious. That person would not be able to bother me again, without going to jail.

~

But it wasn't until I got to my car that the dam of pent-up emotions collapsed away from the strong foundation I'd faked all day in court. The tears felt like a betrayal of my anger, clung and then dropped from the edge of my jawbone. I drove home, the day's events reviewing through the peculiar mind that is mine, with the pressure of the operose process upending me in a peculiar way....

I burst into torrential tears, wailing in recognition that someone, Him, felt that same way about me:

That's the way He feels … if He really said I was stalking him … if He really spoke of a restraining order … He wants me to disappear … He's angry … He feels threatened … has fear ... This is the lesson and why I had to go through all of this … so I would know how HE feels … about ME!

The spokes of karma are powerful. Do unto others, and all that … what is done to us, we may be doing to others, just as what we don't want done to us, we shouldn't do to others.

I'll never know what was said about me between those two – the one who tattled; the one who rattled – I'll never know the truth.

But I know I got badly hurt. And there's no restraining order to protect my heart from the hurt I got. From someone I loved.

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BuZZworthy

Buzzworthy

Why did a wasp wedge its skinny striped self into my shoe by the door? Isn’t there some kind of code between bees and human inhabitants? Shouldn’t he have at least buzzed his presence before I slid an unsuspecting and tired foot into what I thought was my shoe? Let me assure you, when a wasp wants it, your footwear is not yours anymore!

A quick errand to the supermarket started the stinging affair. Who thinks of checking a shoe? Not me … but that policy is now revised.

As I hurriedly slipped on the right shoe, I felt what I thought was a little pebble, a stony bumpy thing. I took off and shook the shoe, but nothing rolled out, so I slipped it back on and started out the door.

Again! A “thing”, what is that?  pressed hard against my sole, but I pushed forward toward the door. Bad idea, because then the hard annoying thing burned! Until I understood I had been stung, it felt like a red-hot rock burning!

I flung off the shoe and there he was, gasping his last little bee breath.

Apparently, the weight of my wrath did not settle well around the waspy invader.

Panicked, I sat down and saw the welt growing larger on my foot bottom, as the fright mounted inside me, and I rubbed and watched it turn red and swell fast and furious.

I may be allergic and I don’t know what kind of bee bit me, but more importantly, what if I couldn’t walk? 

Adrenaline coursed through my veins at an alarming rate. I could feel my heart beat faster and my blood pressure spike from fear.

Because he stung the bottom of my foot, callused soul skin saved me. (A case for “thick skin” and sparse pedicures if I ever heard one!)

Once, I got stung on my fleshy arm and had to go to the hospital because the swollen lump grew so large and my breathing changed to challenging. That’s when I found out I am allergic to bee stings. But maybe only certain kinds of bees….

As it turns out, my little bee buddy didn’t get a good bite. I probably scared him more than he scared me.

We both limped away.

Me stung.

Him stunned.                       

I lived.

He died.

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Faces of Strangers

FACES OF STRANGERS

A crowd gathered, waiting for the restaurant to open. Seated among the Asian throng, no one spoke a language I understood. Relieved of the normal eavesdropping occupation, I could fade into the background where comfort is guaranteed. 

When paid, performing center stage is not difficult for me. But I prefer blending in, unnoticed, blending into the background, observing without contributing, to choruses of chitter-chatter and nothingness.

I like to look at the faces of strangers. I like to pick out who is married to whom; mirror neurons clearly molding spousal selection into identifiable couples. Their faces shapes resemble each other as if born brother and sister.

It’s fun, obvious (to me, at least), and reveals more than lives lived.

Carved facial features let me in on private joys or painful episodes shared by two people I’ll never know. Reading expressions, watching reactions, traversing well-worn lines on heightened foreheads and layers of neck-folds, lets me know secrets not well hidden, as with any chartered map of any remote hiding place.

It’s true we mirror each other, especially whom we love and live with. How that works is a mystery. We are born unique, but blend beautifully by copying curved lips, squinted eyes, twitching noses. Even sounds are echoed: laughter sounds similar, hushed tones match, accents blend, obscuring regional differences to a distant past.

Of course the kids look like the parents. That’s genius genetics. Thus, two complete strangers meet, marry, multiply, and presto! Faces of strangers are familiar and familial.

Most curious of all is the effect we all have on each other. We copy friends, we adopt habits, we emulate those we admire, and mirror exactly those we love.

I think I used to speak differently. I know I’ve acted a million different ways, depending on where in the world I was, or what in the world I was doing.

I can’t help but wonder if anyone has ever “mirrored” me? That would lead me to wonder why they would want to.

We morph because we are all insecure about something or another.

Sitting there in that crowd watching every detail from posture to lost composure at having to wait to be seated, I listened to babble in foreign tongue and guardedly assumed what was no doubt debatable.

I like to look at the faces of strangers. I like to suppose their stories are any more fantastic than my own.

I’ll never know.

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Views From a Cruise

VIEWS FROM A CRUISE

Everything looks prettier from one's private balcony on a cruise ship. Or so I imagine. I'm so spoiled. I've grown accustomed to the view while sipping a pina colada in my pajamas. Snap. Snap. I click the camera at the sunrise, the waves, the remote islands we sail by, the inconceivable cloud formations, the eventual goodnight salutation of the sun ... an animal that surfaces, anything that touches an emotional chord. The music is the humming of the ship, the cracking of the sea, the hushed winds that whisper all day and all night.

Is that a Monet painting? It could be. Except that it is from my little point and shoot camera. The only thing more beautiful than the actual Venetian view is the surreal surprise of seeing it later looking like this! I don't remember it being that beautiful as I looked through the tiny lens.

People say they're bored on a ship. "Nothing to do," is the common complaint. I understand that. There can be long days at sea, where eating or shopping or drinking or thinking can become a rigorous routine of monotony. The noise at the pool and the incessant sun is not for everyone. I get it. That's why a private suite with a quiet balcony is the only way to sail. Except that solitude is not for everyone either.






Of course you could always come and hear the special interests speaker (ME!), and learn about etymology or gemology. I'm listed on the daily program somewhere below origami oranges or how to crimp a braid. Seriously? There's the casino ... but I'm free. (And fun!)

You want to hike in the mountains with giant spiders? Sleep in a tent? Sit cross-legged at an ashram? Bicycle across a continent sweating, panting, inflating tires, and sipping a small bottle? Walk through endless ruins contemplating the scholars of centuries past? All great ideas. All activities I do too, in my imagination. *Knock - knock* What's that? Room service? Ahhh ... try that in your jungle paradise!

Or ... try this! The sunlight shimmering with twinkly sparkles along ridges of cresting waves. Soon the illumination of stars on waters. Cloud formations slither as wispy shapes or dense cover between patches of intensely blue sky. Structural patterns, occasional dark clouds, animal shapes, an angel, a spreading shadowy sprinkle ... peace. It's peace, pure and wet, and wonderful, and never the same to be seen again.

The higher up you are on a cruise ship, the more expensive the accommodations. I like the lowest balcony I can get. The closer I am to the water, the more I can see the depths of the sea and the animals below. There are telltale signs of a feeding frenzy, a whale's tale, excited dolphins diving in the wake of the ship. Once, mere miles from Key West, we passed over millions of jellyfish in a gelatinous bubble of frenzied feeding, but who else noticed? Certainly not all the boozing sunbathers on the top of the ship, Am I the only one that saw that unbelievable sight? Maybe.

Everyday a new thing to see or a port to explore. Everyday, meals made for me, sheets pulled back, little towel animals waiting on the bed. This is luxury, and I like it.

I've conquered sea-sickness, a migraine in Africa, the medinas and bazaars in many foreign lands, losing a throng of tourists I was in charge of in Amsterdam. (No, they were not in the "coffee bars".) I've weathered all kinds of weather, including a hurricane in the English Channel that tossed my stateroom like a salad. (That'll teach me to pack so many pairs of shoes ...) I've endured the dirty waters of the Atlantic to get to the bluest waters of the Adriatic Sea. And then there's the Med. Nothing beats the Med. Heck, they named a whole club after it!

I do have one fear, however ...

That something might happen to me way out on the water. Something really bad. Not that the ship should sink, but that I might sink. What happens to sick people? Really, really sick people. Heart attacks, strokes, falls, that sort of thing. Well, like anywhere else, it happens all the time. There is a hospital on board and they handle broken bones, the dreaded Norovirus, all sorts of maladies. Even death. Yes. Even dead people don't get to get off. Your cold, dead body does not disembark until the last port of call. You'll be in cold storage with the meat. (Kidding -- they have a separate shelf for the steaks.) No, cruise ships don't stop except in ports of call.

That's why one night while I was reading in bed, I clenched decidedly when the ship stuttered to a clangy, loud, throttling halt. What was that?! We've stopped in the middle of the ocean? Hundreds of miles from anywhere civilian? No way! But, yes. We stopped. (Another reason why a balcony is mandatory  - so that you can verify you're stuck dead in the water ...) I went outside and we stood still. No motors. No familiar wave noise. We were stopped. They were opening the side of the ship and a small boat from I don't know where was approaching rapidly. Were they pirates? (I've watched way too many movies ...) Wait .. what's that? A stretcher? A person on a stretcher? Leaving like that? From the bottom of the big ship onto a tiny little boat? Family and luggage going too? I watched from my low-down perch. Incredible. The only other time I knew of a medical emergency, that person was whisked via helicopter from the top of the ship. I had never seen anything like this that I was watching. The tedious unfolding of the bowels of the ship and a person's very life, simultaneously. The ordeal took about two hours. The tiny ship finally sailed off, the ship closed up the portal, and we laboriously lugged along again.

What had possibly happened to that person that was worse than death? Then... it happened again! The next morning, someone else, same ordeal, off the Greek islands. This time, I saw the chef among the crowd of ship's personnel, noticeable by his tall toque, helping the ill person disembark. Why was the chef there? Should I worry about room service? Is there something in the food that's putting people off? Literally, as in these two cases?

No. I have a balcony. I will surely eat again. And then again. That's what we do on a ship when we're a sea. There's nothing else to do, remember? Then, I'll buy something I don't need, win the ship's raffle (because I pulled the winning ticket out of the bag and it was curiously my own), discover the delicious taste of a wasabi martini (no, I don't know what's in it, only that I want another one), and return to the respite of my beloved balcony -- with my camera of course, because I always want to remember the glorious views from a cruise.

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124,002 WORDS

124,002 WORDS

Finally, it's finished. And it's 124,002 words. No, not this blog post (breathe with relief!), but my book. My beautiful book about my beautiful relationship with an “Angel”. At more than 450 pages, it is nevertheless an unfinished story.

It took 3 years of my life to write Torture: Broken Foot, Shattered Soul. It takes time to tell a story like that. And it took ALL my time. It stole my sleep, exacerbated exercise efforts, stifled social life, toyed with my self-awareness, and manipulated me like a puppet with a pen. Nearly every moment of every day surrendered and spent writing, thinking about writing, reading about writing, or chastising myself for not writing.

The monster grew until it materialized as a big book. A very big book. Unbelievably, only the beginning of an even bigger subject matter.

My intentions were clear from the start. Firstly, I wrote Torture for the “Angel”. “He” changed my life in every way and in extraordinary ways.

He changed me.

I needed the “Angel” to know the meta-psychology, the why behind the “why” and beneath the “why”. I wanted him to know the truth. About me ... and about those around him. I owed him that much.

I owed him more.

Catharsis stood as reason number two.

"Many patients keep a journal as they recover, for catharsis,” the “Angel” had told me.

Though a cathartic intent rests soundly in logic, that intention didn't work. Research supports a different view. Running through events over and over, reviewing them endlessly through an astonished mind, only buries them deeper and indelibly, offering little relief in the form of Letting Go.

Catharsis should be an understanding, a release.

It didn't work.

My last reason for writing Torture was to get answers.

Answers to questions I had yet to conceive. Answers to questions I had asked endlessly without sufficient clarity to understand. Answers to questions I was scared to give voice to.

I wanted to heal, but most assuredly lacked the knowledge or experience to cope with such a wide swath of wound, which wound tightly throughout my every exhalation. If I couldn't relieve, how would I breathe?

Only the “Angel” holds the power to heal my hurt. He has that power because I gave it to him. How do I get that back? More questions … I can't answer.

People have suggested that I am allowed to be angry, that I should be angry.

Too late. I promised myself when I started my story that the “Angel” never deserved anger.

I still choose to bless rather than blame.

"He" didn't know any better than I knew.

And what I knew from moment one was that ours was never a random chance encounter.

Random stars collide. Sometimes a brighter star results, sometimes a star explodes, sometimes an uncharted orbit expands both stars via a celestial gate, into a new and unknown galaxy. The collision, however, originates from a place of predetermination.

The stars don't select. They surrender.

I wrote. I'm still writing. I still need to sort it all out, all the while realizing I may never accomplish that alignment intention.

I wrote only for the “Angel”.

"He" doesn't think he's an “Angel”. So far, he's been unable to grasp the metaphorical aspect – that though he is a man, he's an “Angel” for me.

Is it possible God picked “him” purposely, knowing “him” quite well, and knowing “he” would be exactly the right intercession for me at precisely that moment? What if God recognized that this “Angel” was the one and only one who would reach me and rearrange my potentiality. The perfect fit of imperfect personalities. Is it imaginable that God specifically put us on the same path at the same time because the journey we needed to take together, through the layer of spiritual substructure, would forever alter us in unknowable ways?

I only ask, what if?

How scared I was … when I finally finished Torture and went to deliver the “Angel” the first printed copy.

Stunned, “he” told me he would read it.

"I'll read it ... and I'll let you know what I think ...”, the “Angel” assured my scared spirit self. Relieved, I sighed.

I trusted him. Still.

I believed him, even after so many letdowns. I believed him when he promised he'd read the book I wrote for him and let me know --- something. Any thing. I believed him.

I had the renewed innocence of hope. I believed him once again and once again he fooled me. And I fell for it. My unwavering trust and vulnerability vanquished, yet undiminished.

I expected my “Angel” might have questions of his own after reading my story.

I have answers. I am ready.

How should I interpret “his” silence?

A kindness is missing. A validation. An understanding that “he” acknowledges and affirms me. That “he” hears me. We may listen with ears, but we hear with hearts. That “he” realizes the part “he” played in the damaging demise, the ruins of what was real for me. His disregard is deafening.

My favorite priest, who read and enjoyed Torture, said to me, “If he's a sensible man, I think he'll be awed.”

Apparently, my “Angel” is not a sensible man after all. On the face of it, my “Angel” appears to be odd … rather than awed.

I wrote 124,002 words for an “Angel”....

From “him” … I heard … not one word.

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The Little Skater

THE LITTLE SKATER

She skated by me on spindly, unsteady legs. The park path was smooth, but the little girl on roller skates kept falling down.

While swaying back and forth on a glider, I watched her. Each spill to the pavement made the small seven year old less unsure and made me more distressed to see her less able to master her skating skill.

The park was packed with families, pets, screaming children. A beautiful scene on a beautiful spring afternoon. I noticed everything, but the little girl on skates captured my attention.

I admired her tenacity, even as she got slower each time to rise up and try again. Her face registered heavy concentration and consternation at the same time. Determined to skate correctly, but worried for failure. Her knees hit the cement and as she rose yet again, I saw a bloody scrape.

Little children are so brave. I would've left wailing after failing so many times, but she still kept skating, arms flailing wildly for better balance.

Ironically, those rapid motions were her downfall. And down she went again.

As she struggled my way, her expression signaled a pleading request for a rest. I motioned her over and slid left to offer a seat next to me on the swing. Immediately, the little skater smiled, nodded, and collapsed quickly next to me with a grateful sigh.

“Hi!” I said brightly, and smiled big at her. “Hi,” she answered, as she looked up at me and then held her head in her hands with an audible sigh.

“I can't do it ...” she whispered with a throaty, whooshing sound, raising her sad face to look at me closely.

“Yeah, it looks like you're having a hard time,” I acknowledged. My tone brightened as I announced, “well, guess what? Today's your lucky day!”

The little skater looked at me with a toothy, eager grin.

“You just fell down next to a skating coach,” I continued, “and I'll bet I can have you up and skating within five minutes!”

“Really?” She smiled bigger as if she really had won something. She had a tooth missing and a precious personality. I knew I could help her and my confidence was contagious.

“Are you ready?”

She nodded eagerly.

Using my hands, I demonstrated the correct posture and explained how gravity, motion, and body position all affect balance and the ability to glide gracefully without worry of falling.

“Your body will follow your arms, so if you wave them around, you will be unsteady and fall back if your arms are behind you,” I explained. “Keep them level and in front of you, and if you feel yourself start to fall, push your arms even further ahead of you to regain balance.”

Anxious to succeed, she immediately tried to skate again, implementing my corrections. I think she surprised herself that a smooth and balanced glide actually was that easy! As she rotated to smile wide at me, she jerked herself back to balance, realizing that that turning motion made her wobbly. Her determination and belief solidified as the little skater gracefully glided away – seemingly taller with pride.

With matching satisfaction, I watched her skate over to her mother and brother, and pointing to me, the little girl mouthed some sort of over-exuberant explanation of our encounter and her newly found expertise at skating. They looked over to me and nodded.

The little skater skated away. Faster and faster, happier and happier. As she rounded the oval to pass by me again, she waved as if we were old friends. I clapped to applaud her confident success.

We were old friends. It was that easy.


Just Another Lori Story.